Yes mam you can. I was with my childs father for 7 years and you would never guess the way I found out he was cheating....I won't mention that....but, I've totally forgiven him. I don't even think about it anymore. It's almost like it didn't happen. It took me some time but, I prayed and prayed, cried and cried some more. And the Lord took the hurt away from me. I knew I had to get past it and trust in Jesus to heal me because If I didn't I would be doing nothing but hurting myself and my child by wallowing in my own pain and staying mad at her father, which in turn (wether you know it or not), will affect all the people around you. So I can say yes, but you have to trust God to put it in your heart to forgive COMPLETELY because it's almost humanly impossible to forgive some things on our own. We are not together anymore but we were never married. We have a great friendship and we get along better now as friends. God brought the good with the bad. And he let me see why this happened. I have friends who have been through similar things, and to this day cannot get over what has been done to them. They wallow and complain and don't give it to God, and expect to find forgiveness in their own hearts. (?) Under any circumstance wether it's cheating, hatred, betrayal...oh and iv'e been betrayed by my own family as well in ways you wouldn't imagine....by my father, sister, cousins (and I'm just saying this to let you know, I've been through it, yet I love them still)....whatever the case may be you have to trust Jesus to heal you. Everyone does wrong or has done wrong in the past and expects to be forgiven by God and others, but don't want to forgive others themselves. Some say there are sins that are greater than others while Jesus according to the bible, says all sins are judged the same. He say's forgive others if you want to be forgiven by the Father. I know...easier said than done, but with deligence and prayer you CAN too overcome.

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Yes I have forgiven my man for plenty of things similar to playing me. He has put me through so much drama but, we have always forgiven each other. Every time things like this happpen we always look pass it and our love begins to grow stronger. No matter what ups and downs, smiles and frowns that we have been through we never look back into the pass because it just makes one more insecure about the other.

This is such and interesting topic. There was a man in my life that did me very wrong. He cheated, he lied, he had an addiction to porn, he had little cyber relationships, he was very ugly to me. I didn't see any of these things in the beginning. The first few times I found out I was angry, I felt very hurt, but I forgave him, but these became repetitive mistakes which to me didn't seem like mistakes at all. Here is a man that knows and has studied the bible, but carried so much anger that he didn't seem to care how badly he hurt people. He allowed temptation to get the best of him. We were engaged. I began to pray for strength and guidance more and more. After a while I began to dislike him as a person and I knew at that point that I could never spend the rest of my life with him. I left him and never turned back and I have no regrets. Do I forgive him? Yes, I do. I will never forget though. I feel strongly that if a person shows you who they are the first time, you had better believe him. He has gone through his own healing process because he really was his own worse enemy but I will never EVER go back, I will never forget, and I'm happier without him. To this very day he still sends e-mails ect from time to time telling me how much he loves me...but I love myself a lot more than he will ever understand. I wish him the best of luck in his life but refuse to live my life with ANY man that has potential to attempt to destroy my spirit.

"Playing" to me is an insecure, unintelligent way of finding out what a person will and will not allow in a relationship. It's childish and immature. I guess these folks never got picked or was the last one picked to play kick ball. These people generally do not have the communication skills or maturity to say what they really want. When "playing" is acted out indespicably, I can forgive and move on-- not to forget.

Yes, I have forgiven several men. Mainly my oldest son,s father who denied him even though I lived in the house with his mother and himself. It took God to help me get over the girls calling and coming by the house. I finally asked God to take the pain that I was feeling away and that I did not want to cry another day over someone who evidently didn't care about me. From then on, I did not cry another day and I moved on and now I am married with 2 sons and a wonderful husband that love my first son like it was his own. My son is handsome and smart, so I look at it as his biological father missed out on a beautiful thing. All in all, he is forgiven and forgotten.

Forgive AND forget? No, you can't, or should I say, you shouldn't. Forgive someone, absolutely. You have to forgive for the healing to come. But you should not forget what was done. You should learn from what you have been through and accept the lesson that the situation taught you. I appreciate the lessons that I have learned from being played in the past because it has taught me to appreciate all of the good that I have in my life now. You cannot fully appreciate the sunshine if you have never been caught in the rain.

I believe you can forgive but not forget. My sister betrayed me in a terrible way and i still speak to her and all that but i haven't forgotten and i never bring it up...

yes, it's hard to forgive someone who has played me. it's hard to forget but im trying. i pray about it. he will get what's coming to him. maybe he will know how it feels. it hurts.

Absolutely believe in forgiveness as well as forgetting. Forgiving is far easier and forgetting takes time. Almost like a time of recovery from a near grave illness.

Forgiveness is something that we all must master.I must say that it is not easy; especially when it is someone you trust, love, and respect. I recently took in a family who was homeless; due to a young mothers irresponsibility to budget her finances. Well, my generosity didn't matter to say the least. She continued with her wreckless living habits, and I had to ask her to leave. I eventually learned that she reported me to the authorities which; caused a lot of problems for me. I was devastated because I have five children of my own, but I took in her and her four children. The ironic part is; she has two aunts that live across the road from me, but they wouldn't help her because of her character. I guess they knew something that I didn't. I know that the word says forgive seventy times seven; however, that doesn't stop the hurt. I have moven on and I still love to preach the gospel.I chalk it up as being another one of my test, to get me the the next level in Christ.
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I am wrestling with that problem as we speak. Good to read positive, motivational comments that could help me to my road to recovery.
I want to forgive because I read in the Bible that if I don't, I can not be connected to God. If I disconnect from God, then I am lost. I need him for direction.
I also need to forgive for my health. I know that the pain of betrayal will never be forgotten, but to forgive is priceless.
Pray for me sisters and brothers.
Thank you

I know that it's possible to forgive someone who has played you, I'm a living witness. I first had to forgive myself before any emotional healing took place. Forgetting to me is impossible because you're scorned when you're betrayed. You can however, move on and still have a sucessfull relationship. Things change, and people do too.

It takes a big person to forgive someone who has hurt us. I have been married for seven yrs and my husband has cheated on me thruought those years. Alot of the affairs I had not clue about and others I did get wind of yrs later. My husband also commited the mortal sin of having a child out of wed lock and carring on a secret relationship on with a woman I had no clue about. At first I was devastated. At the time I found out I was pregnant with our second child together. Which by the way he asked for in an attempt to keep me trapped after I would eventually find out about his dirty little secret. I was hurt for a few months. Then I started praying and every day got easier. I started focusing on myself and my children and looking to the lord for answers. Its been a couple of months now and I can honestly say, I am in a better place. My husband was a very selfish man, he not only affected me and our family, but brought another woman and child into the equation. I pray for my serity and clear mindedness. Its been a long road to healing. I know without prayer and good friends I wouldn't have been able to forgive him. I have truley forgiven him, I wont forget or dwell on the past. Because I know I was not the cause of his actions. I started loving me and I am much happier. So you can forgive just put it in gods hands. And remember: Vengence is mine said the Lord.